Starting life over again at…45 – 50 – 60?…..even 80?

A recent comment from someone I just met who said they were starting their life over again at 45 spurred me on to write this article.  I too have made that comment about starting my life over, except that was in the past.  At age 30, I did start over and had two small sons that I was responsible for and no job.  I had felt as if I had just given my ex-husband the best years of my life.  Little did I know that I was not starting over but had reached what I now call a pivot point in my life.

Starting over to me equates to starting from the beginning with nothing.  Reaching a pivot point is a place in a life where you have to make a decision of what road to go down next, keeping all the knowledge and wisdom you have gained so far and using that for your future.  I have had several of these pivot points in my life and am not even going to guess how many more will come to my life.  The important thing to realize is that I have a choice.

There are many out there who do not think they have a choice and that they were put in this situation because of world events as an example or they live in fear of getting out of their comfort zone, so they stay the same always.  There are a large number of people in the world today experiencing the shift that has occurred in the economy, which has leveled the playing field as I define it in my terms.  Having been self-employed since my divorce in 1981, I have never known from one week to the next if I would have work.  My job security has always been determined by my attitude, beliefs and trust in God, something that many people with a steady job working for a solid company have never given a second thought to until now.

I too was taken out of my comfort zone because of the economy when my business slowed to nothing.  I have had to teach myself some new tricks of my trade and basically turn down a different road at my pivot point of age 58.  That has been interesting because I have never had to find or generate work, it always came to me!   The shift has brought to my attention that I needed to refresh my core beliefs and learn once again, to TRUST, that everything is going according to plan.

What was different this time with this pivot point is that I have learned to turn all my fears of the unknown over to God (Source).  I just let it go and trusted which is something that I  fine tuned in the past and had become comfortable doing the same for years.  This time being “For Reals” ( a saying I picked up from one of my sons when he was young…yes – FOR REALS!), I too was taken out of my comfort zone and not only changed the direction of my career, I added another one altogether!    Imagine telling God your wish, for me it was an income doing my Art or something, then letting it go and not asking again.  Also, I could not peek to see if it was manifesting.  I had to just TRUST that I would receive an answer and had to go about my business.  What business was that you might ask?  I keep my mind open for thoughts of how to move forward…listening to that voice in my head which I now fondly call my guides.  They told me to trust as I have done in the past.  As far as the past, I always had food on the table, a roof over my head, and was living my passion.  I did peek at times, and that only set me back, then I learned and let my fears and worries go with trust that God and my guides knew best.

The second part of trusting and letting go is the fact based on what Jesus had stated long ago:  “You cannot put new wine into an old wineskin”.  I had to empty out my old beliefs, rules and opinions, allowing for new information to enter and guide me.  If I had held on to my old beliefs, they would have just conflicted with the new information I was receiving and not allowing any change or growth.

My life is still evolving and changing yet there is “Light at the end of the tunnel” as the saying goes, and I TRUST that light.  After all, we are just Light and Information….as is our Source.